Happiness… it’s that elusive state that most of us pursue. It may be our main life goal. We may perceive it in short-term, instant-gratification ways. Or we may play a longer game, willing to put off happiness for now if we can have more of it at a later date. Some of us fear we’ll never find it. For others, it’s a simple as going for a brisk, five-minute walk. You may find you get some from gay massage or shiatsu or just playing golf. Or it may be through connecting with your friends, old and new, that happiness lies. No matter what it means to you, you’d have to be inhuman not to want it. Gay massage London can give you a long-lasting glow that you equate with happiness, but there’s actually a whole host of ways you can stay in touch with this precious emotion as your day unfolds. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is what helps some people not to stray too far from their ability to feel joyful and cheerful. Other people swear by intense bursts of exercise. Here are three tips to help you keep your hotline to happiness in a good state of repair, so that you can stay smiling even on the tougher days.

The 30-second rule

If your day has got you bogged down or stressed (or both), and you’re overwhelmed by everything that’s on your plate at work, from individual tasks to your entire to-do list, it will start blackening your mood. Unblock yourself and get back to happiness by picking something that can be achieved in half a minute (ie 30 seconds). If there’s nothing you can identify that fits the bill, then pick a larger task and break it down into individual components. Even if it’s something as simple as filing one piece of paper or stapling together the separate sheets of a document, identify it and do it like gay massage. It sounds too simple to be true, but you’ll get an immediate boost. And what’s even better, you can do it again and again.

Don’t fight feeling bad

Part of the negative impact of worry and stress is caused by our resisting it. It’s counterintuitive stuff, but, as odd as it sounds, there’s something to be said for letting yourself feel a bad feeling. That way, you don’t pile on all the additional tension created by desperately trying to push the bad feeling down. Connect with yourself and don’t try to force yourself to feel good. You’ll actually do some processing instead of being in denial. After all, most of us wouldn’t tell a friend to ‘shut up’ if he or she said they were feeling low, yet we routinely do this to ourselves. Feelings aren’t facts, they don’t last forever and it’s good to accept them and let them flow.

Be your own friend

If we’re not careful, we can start running ancient tapes from childhood in our heads, full of self-recriminating messages. So it’s important to stop being brutal and say something kind to ourselves. You could pick a positive affirmation and give yourself some compassion. Mindful self-compassion – taking a moment to sit with yourself and deliberately think of your good qualities – can really connect us with our joy.

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