Men are often conditioned to deprive themselves of the healing benefits of touch. It’s an unfortunate reflection of our society that male children are told to grow out of needing the reassuring comfort of physical contact between themselves and their friends, so that by the time they’re adults, they willingly go without it, determined to fit the flawed model of strength and self-sufficiency foisted on them by their parents or perhaps their schooling. Many men endure long periods of time with nothing more than the occasional handshake bringing them into contact with their fellow man. But with male massage, you can start making up for lost time.
If you’re going through a stressful time, then there’s even more reason to avail yourself of the feel-good energy that will be generated during a gay body-to-body experience, helping you shake loose from worry and negativity. In particular, male therapy in London can offset the stress of the life in the capital and the way that, despite living in a populous city, we become cut off from the loving touch of our fellow city-dwellers.
When you allow yourself the friendly, affectionate treatment, your body will release oxytocin, sometimes known as the ‘love hormone’. Additional effects of this hormone are lowered blood pressure, a higher pain threshold and a diminution of the potentially dangerous stress hormone, cortisol. On top of that, your gay massage will also slow your heart-rate and can help with low-back pain, osteoarthritis and neck pain.
But what about when you’ve left your gay body-to-body appointment? How can you maintain the benefits you’ve acquired? Without realising it, people can all too easily slip back into going hours, days – even weeks – without physical contact. So it’s important to add some touch to your day, every day, and doing it isn’t difficult.
One strategy is to self-massage. You can apply a lotion or oil of your choice and then use your fingertips in a circular motion, tending to your legs, arms, neck and scalp, soothing tension as you go. You can adapt this process by using some tools; there are kneading tools and canes that can help you reach difficult knots and hard-to-reach parts of your body. It may not be quite as exhilarating as gay body-to-body massage, but it can be a great way of honouring your physical self and demonstrating love and care for your body.
Furthermore, remember that touch doesn’t just mean being touched (passive touch) – giving touch (active touch) can also add to the positive effect. So think about offering hugs, handshakes, high-fives and pats on the back as you go about your day. A lot of these are forms of touch that it’s appropriate to offer in platonic relationships, so you don’t have to be romantically involved to give them.
Finally, pencil in your next appointment in London, so you know it’s on the horizon and that you won’t have too long an interval between appointments.