When you go away for work, do you feel a longing for home, deep within your very core? Perhaps this happens even when you’ve gone away for pleasure, such as taking a long holiday on a tropic shore. Maybe you’ve uprooted yourself for a new job or you’ve changed cities. But whatever the case, yearning for home is a feeling that can attach itself to you with some astonishing persistence. There’s many a song, book, play and film that’s been written about it. But what exactly is it, and can regular therapeutic activities such as Tantric massage London do anything to lessen it? And why, for something that’s primarily a psychological thing, does it have such a physical component?
Homesickness is rooted in the idea of attachment. When we feel it, our minds are full of desire for that which is known, stable, safe, consistent, predictable and comforting. And, it turns out, it doesn’t even matter whether your home is a happy place or not. You could be coming from a home that is riven with violence, alcoholism, anger and poverty, and yet the same homesickness will hit you when you go away, despite the fact that the home you are yearning for is a bleak and dark place. Furthermore, even if your new surrounds are a marked improvement (perhaps you’ve arrived at a leafy, quaint university, full of beautiful architecture). That won’t make much difference; homesickness is just as likely to strike, despite the splendour and elegance of your new habitat.
First, in order to lessen the severity of the homesickness, remind yourself that it’s perfectly normal. There is nothing aberrant or wrong with the way you’re feeling. It’s simply that you’re in transition from one world to another and, just as we get a shock when entering a cold swimming pool, so we’re experiencing discomfort upon entering our new environment. There’s a necessary period of adjustment that you need to sit out before you can start feeling at ease. You can’t be immediately comfortable with where you are until you’ve spend a bit more time there. The human mind can, unfortunately, give us the impression that this discomfort will last forever, but nothing could be further from the truth. You could start to notice a lessening in the feelings of homesickness on the second day.
One good trick is to find somewhere in your new environment that you can visit every day and build up some quick familiarity with – it could be a local coffee shop, a gym, a library. By doing this, we can accelerate the process of putting down roots and getting connected. Doing this is vital, because the feelings we are up against are intense. In fact, homesickness has similar qualities to grief and bereavement, but instead of losing a person, we have lost a place. Depression and anxiety may rise to the surface, along with insomnia, changes in appetite, lack of focus and struggles with concentration. If, for example, we’ve just moved to the capital, then gay massage London makes a perfect choice in terms of finding a new environment with which to become familiar. But whatever we do, we can hold on to the knowledge that these are just teething pains and that we’ll be feeling right as rain within days.