Sometimes, the very populousness of a city like our capital is, conversely, what can make it a lonely place. Gay massage in London can do its bit to make you life less isolated, but it can’t alleviate solitude for good. There isn’t necessarily a village-like culture on your street, where people wave at one another and can call on neighbours for help during difficult times. You may not even have a nodding acquaintance with the people who live right beside you. If this is something that gets to you, it’s important to think about ways you can redress the balance. So many people just bellyache about how unfriendly the city is, without taking any steps to rectify the situation. They expect to be able to sit back, do nothing, and have people be friendly to them, and – if it doesn’t happen – they have an almighty sulk for years and years, like the petulant child nobody likes. It’s almost obscene in its arrogance and perhaps those people deserve to feel alone until they wake up and realise that some of the responsibility lies with them. But if you’re of livelier mind than that, then you may well have explored some of the ways we can get connected with each other through places like Tantric Soul.
Doing something in the voluntary sector is one solution and its comes with additional benefits. Have you ever considered the character-building pay-off of giving your time to something in exchange for nothing – not money, not status, not prestige of any kind? It’s one of the many compelling reasons to explore volunteering. Sometimes, it’s important to plug into our local communities at a hands-on level, especially during a time when so many people in the capital hide within gated communities and super-basements. There’s something terribly misanthropic and non-community-minded about living in a city of several million people while doing one’s very best to limit contact with any of them. Of course, gay massage brings you immediately into intimate contact with a wonderful man of your choice, so it’s a very good start when it comes to branching out and making connections. But to get properly linked in to a local network, nothing can really beat finding a good cause or a charity and then seeing what you can do for them. It doesn’t have to mean hours of drudge in a dingy charity shop if that’s not your thing. You can get out and about doing all manner of things that make life better for other people. Failing that, it’s no great stretch to find like-minded souls by joining internet-facilitated meet-up groups, doing short courses at places like City Lit, or becoming members of societies and arts initiatives.