Does the idea of an open relationship ever appeal to you? It’s a controversial topic and sometimes it polarises people into black-and-white positions. Either they’re fine with it or it’s completely and morally wrong. But as we mature in life, many of us become more comfortable with the grey areas in between and find a more nuanced position on such topics. Gay massage in London sometimes assists in making us more open-minded, too. But even so, there’s a huge variety of stances when it comes to the idea of sharing yourself with more than one person, even when you’re committed to an individual as your life partner.
For some, an open-relationship is possible, provided there are ground rules that are adhered to strictly. Such people might agree that they and their partner can have sex with other people, provided it’s always disclosed and there’s no illicit romance. Others may agree on the rule that sexual relations with outside parties is fine, provided it’s a ménage-a-trois that involves both of them. Of course, there are risks. Jealousy is a toxic emotion which, once aroused, can do terrible damage to a relationship. Trust can be eroded and neuroses inflamed. The green-eyed monster of envy can join the party as well, and leave love in tatters. So before anyone embarks on an open relationship, it’s vital that both of you can do it without suspicion and possessiveness coming into play.
At the other end of the spectrum are those who could never countenance such a thing. For these types, monogamy and total commitment is the only kind of relationship to which they’ll agree. Sadly, this doesn’t eliminate the risk of infidelity – it simply means that any outside love will go undisclosed. Affairs sometimes just happen and relationships can be finite. The people in the open-relationship camp will possibly feel more secure because they keep everything out in the open, but the people in the exclusivity camp may prefer blissful ignorance.
It’s impossible to be in a long-term relationship and retain the same level of excitement about your partner’s body and sexuality decade after decade. The human imagination sometimes craves newness – the idea of a stranger’s flesh becomes more and more intriguing. Of course, counsellors can sometimes help spouses reinvigorate their love-lives and find their partners exciting all over again, but it’s not guaranteed. Another method of reawakening old passions is to share gay massage in London as a couple. But whatever course of action a person takes when confronted by this situation, it’s vital to keep compassion and honesty at the forefront. Perhaps the worst situation is the one in which someone has heaps of affairs while rubbing them in the face of the faithful partner. There’s a callousness to it that simply turns the stomach.