With terminology constantly changing and developing, some say for the better, others for the worse, we are certainly kept on our toes. Use the wrong word in the wrong company, and your name is mud. And one area where the terms are always on the move is the realm of sexuality. In 2016, you’re more likely than ever to encounter someone who eschews words like ‘gay’ and ‘straight’, dismissing them as old-hat labels that should be permanently erased. And as for bisexual – that’s been left in the dust, usurped by the shiny new replacement ‘sexually fluid’. To you or me, ‘sexually fluid’ sounds like some kind of unpleasant discharge caused, perhaps, by an over-exertion of the libido. However, what it actually is is a popular new identity. In truth, it’s not exactly the same as bisexual. Instead, it refers to people whose sexual preferences change either at will or by chance during the course of life. You may find yourself discussing it the next time you have a gay massage from Tantric Soul, because in all likelihood your therapist will be well-informed on all the latest developments.
But back to sexual fluidity, it inhabits one of those areas where the extreme left-wing meets the extreme right, because in championing the notion of sexual fluidity – the idea that every human can change their sexual orientation – the left-wing are inadvertently agreeing with the controversial idea of conversion therapy, a pet cause of the Christian far-right. This is one of the reasons that the ‘sexual fluidity’ champions are not perceived as being entirely friendly by the LGBT community. Sexual fluidity is, whether it wants to be or not, an endorsement of the conversion (sometimes known as ‘reparative’) therapy which young gay men and women are sometimes forcibly put through by their religious parents. Doesn’t it all make you yearn for the simpler era we appear to be leaving behind? If so, why not forget about it all and allow yourself the indulgence of gay massage? After you’ve got to grips with the concept of ‘sexual fluidity’, there is a whole host of additional new identities out there, but they are perhaps best left for another time