When we read the word ‘anorexia’, we generally think of the eating disorder anorexia nervosa. And most of us will then switch off because we’re fortunate enough not to suffer from this awful, life-threatening condition. But we should actually keep reading because the term anorexia applies to many other things. Just as people can go without food in order to exert some sort of desperate control over their lives, so they can just as easily forgo other aspects of life, out of fear, out of control, out of addiction. It’s worth thinking about, the next time you book a replenishing session of gay massage at Tantric Soul. London is a place that’s full of people, and yet it’s possible to live an anonymous, asocial life despite being surrounded by fellow human beings. If you’ve been living this way, compulsively avoiding social contact and the nourishment of friendship, then you could easily fall into the category of ‘social anorexic’. Sometimes, days turn into weeks and weeks turn into months. Before long, it’s been years spent without the glow of friendship in your heart. Something is very wrong. As much as we might like to think we don’t need people, we are social animals and some part of us withers and atrophies without the mutual flow of love between us and our fellow men and women.
It’s even possible to be a social anorexic when you’re in a long-term relationship. Such is the nature of the illness that not only do we lack external friendships, but we’re also not even that close to our partner. The lack of intimate friendships is classic social anorexia and we can experience it even when we’re in touch with one or two people, such as siblings or cousins. It comes in an array of varieties and patterns. Anorexics (or anorectics, as it’s sometimes written) may have all sorts of processes in play, lying behind our condition. We may find company brow-beating and intense and therefore stay away from people. Or we may disguise our illness by being a social butterfly with thousands of friends, none of whom we’re genuinely close with. Some people with social anorexia may suffer from a debilitating shyness that feels insurmountable. There are so many ways in which this condition can manifest itself, therefore it’s easy to be in denial. We can look at someone who stays inside all day, keeping themselves out of contact with people, and say, ‘Well, I’m not like him/her, so I’m absolutely fine’. The truth could be that you’re anything but fine when you really examine your situation. One of the first things to do to overcome social anorexia is to truly relax, to let go of control and tension. Nothing could be better for this than gay massage at Tantric Soul. London has a variety of treatment options and provided you book via a reputable agency, you’ll end up in safe hands.