Anxiety. It gnaws at us like a cruelly persistent, sharp-toothed rodent. It feels as if it’s feasting on our very essence, leaving us paranoid, shaky and with an elevated heart rate and excessive discharge of adrenalin that can have serious long-term effects. It has no respect for divisions of class, race, wealth, status or identity – when it’s on the warpath, no one gets spared. And it doesn’t just affect the principal sufferer; its outward ripples mean that the behaviour of the sufferer impact all those who come into their sphere. It’s contagious. It’s nasty and it can even kill. Living in a busy, frenetic capital, we can be particularly prone to it and nothing hits the spot quite like erotic gay massage when you’re looking for a complementary therapy to help you reorientate yourself and find that place of calm at the centre of your being.
But we can’t simply have erotic gay massage all day long, even though the prospect is certainly a pleasant one. We have responsibilities, families, goals, demands, ambitions, as well as social lives and hobbies. At every juncture, anxiety can try to find a way in. It can worm its way into your head by reawakening old memories or it can prompt you to worry about the future. It does everything in its power to take you out of the present, so that you’re dwelling in places that aren’t real; the past and the future. When it’s got you there, there’s no telling what it’ll do with you and it’s pretty merciless, as most of us can attest. But there are things you can do, starting with learning how to spot the signs of incipient anxiety as it tries to get hold of you. Unfortunately, because so many of us live with stress, it can be tempting to dismiss our anxiety as simply perfectly humdrum, normal-life stuff. We may not even see the cumulative effect until it’s too late. Then there’s the fact that there’s still stigma associated with saying that you’re suffering from anxiety. The old-school ‘pull your socks up’ brigade is still as noisy and prevalent as ever, shaming people into denying their very real feelings.
Here are some early warnings to look out for so that you can deal with anxiety before it deals with you:
There’s nothing inherently wrong with routine, but if we’re clinging to it excessively, it’s a sign that anxiety is getting a grip of us and spontaneity is going out the window. If, for example, a last-minute invitation from friend to go out to the theatre has you coming up with 101 excuses not to go, it could be that you’re overly routine-dependent as a response to stress. Stay self-aware and start saying ‘yes’ more often to unexpected things that alter your routine.
There’s a saying that it’s the ‘mice’ not the ‘elephants’ that trip us over, meaning that it’s the small things that can be our undoing, setting off our anxiety. If you’re feeling enraged by the small stuff, then it could well be a sign of anxiety. The next time you have an outlandish emotional response to a small thing, step back and ask yourself if you’re really annoyed by the thing that has annoyed you, or whether you’re actually in anxiety.
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